“You are not special. You’re not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You’re the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We’re all part of the same compost heap. We’re all singing, all dancing crap of the world.” -Chuck Palahniuk
Any skill worth having needs training and practice for proficiency. Any professional athlete, competitor, or musician who are good at what they do recognize what efforts it takes to rise above an average level. Not many people are inherently a good artist, musician, or shooter (most likely you are no exception). If you are relying on your natural ability to shoot in a defensive capacity you are preparing for failure. This is quite different from your natural right TO defend yourself. To begin this better journey, you need to find the right influences.
With everything, there are people more experienced and knowledgeable than you. The trick is to be able to identify who they are. Compare their works, experience, and knowledge to things that make sense and what you know is right. It is difficult to put ego aside to recognize and accept correction or your own shortcomings. Once you accept- “you don’t know what you don’t know”, you will begin to expand your personal knowledge of things and advance towards greater proficiency and understanding.
There are people among us who hate to see others wasting time and money as they have. It is called stewardship- those with more experience and knowledge trying to help those without. Some prefer to learn from the mistakes of others, while some prefer to make the mistakes themselves.